Hello, My name is Kizzi, welcome to Unapologetic Opinions. This is my corner of the world, one that I want to share with you. I want this space to be a place where you can come and read stories and posts that resonate with you, because you too are on the journey to healing your life. Maybe you have been abused, bullied, raped, beaten… For as we know, there are many types of abuse – sexual, physical, mental, and emotional. All types of abuse have the same effect on the brain and the body, and we all suffer, regardless of the abuse we have gone through. The world is dark, and there are many of us. This is a space where your voice can be heard. 

Because let’s face it, often when we speak out, we are not heard or believed. That happened to me. I have not been believed on many things in my life, especially my abuse. But I refuse to be quiet, refuse to stand down. I will be heard. Over time I will share my journey, as I hope you will share yours too. 

My blog is to speak about the darkness in the world – that which we have to save ourselves from daily – and the light to which we are drawn. Living with the aftermath of any abuse is always hard, lonely, and at times unbearable. Many victims self-harm, take drugs, or drink their pain away, and sadly many take their own lives. There is simply not enough help available to those who need it. With very expensive therapy, or very long waiting lists for help, there just isn’t enough understanding or support for the many behaviours we suffer from as victims of abuse. 

My hope for this blog is to make noise, to give a voice to the voiceless. You will be heard, and there will be many resources to help you on your healing path. I want us to do this together. For the longest time, we have been mocked, ridiculed, disbelieved, ignored, and shamed. Many of us have behaviours and mental illnesses that have come from our abuse, and most of us have no official help or understanding. 

But I am also here to tell you that there is hope, there is light, and there are many therapies that do work. I am still on my healing journey; I am in my mid-fifties and it goes on and on. However, in all of that, I still laugh, I still love, and I have at last learnt how to parent and how to have a wonderful, fulfilling relationship. Of course, I still trigger; I am always in full survival mode. I still think about death, but not daily any more… not even weekly. And at last I am here – the place I dreamed of the most – a place where I can share my voice and find my tribe. I am finally writing. 

Anything is possible if we just don’t give up. From wanting to die daily – when it was all I could think about – to where I am now, waking joyfully every day, I would say I have done very well on my healing journey, and I know you can too. But here I am, and yes, yes, yes! I have had to put in all the work – the therapy, talking, crying, and all the mess that comes with healing. But it has taught me that I am so damn strong. We all are, you know. We are so strong that we can withstand the worst things – not that we should ever have to. But the saddest thing is that for all the light in the world, there has to be the same amount of darkness. Everything has an opposite. Everything! 

Every one of us has suffered in one way or another. But what we have been through changes us – it changes who we are down to our cells. Even our brains function differently. And it is for these reasons that I am here to blog. I want people to understand, more than anything, that we are all different because of the abuse we suffered. We will never know who we were born to be. We are angry, shamed, hurt, disgusted, mistreated, disbelieved, ignored, and fed up with things being this way. 
We will tell our stories. We will have space in the world. YOU WILL HEAR OUR VOICES! For although it shouldn’t be so – we are MANY! 

 

What You’ll Find Here 

• Reflections on love and self-love: how to grow in compassion for ourselves and others. 

• Hard truths about society and politics: the ways we are suppressed, manipulated, and divided. 

• Stories of resilience: my own and those of others who dare to speak their truth. 

• Conversations with survivors: raw, honest interviews with people who have faced the unthinkable and are still standing. 

• Useful links, groups, books, and blogs. 

This is not just a blog. It is a space for truth, a community for the unheard, and a reminder that none of us are alone. 

I will post fortnightly on a Friday (the first and third Friday of every month). 
I will have a resource and reading page. I will also be sharing survivors’ stories every second Tuesday of the month. 

Thank you for joining me in my little – very LOUD – corner of the world. Let’s come together to shout loud and clear that we need better support, services, and help! 

“I share my truth so we can walk this path together. One step at a time.”

BEGIN HERE!

“This is my space to heal, to speak, and to rise. I hope it becomes yours too.”

YOU ARE NOT ALONE

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